Everyone: It takes a village to raise a child.
My mom’s village is really wonderful, but they’re hers. I have to have my own. And I definitely do! Except I don’t really call them a village. We’re more like a tribe.
New title: My Tribe
Here’s the cool thing: my tribe is quite large, but just like my mom I have a pretty cool inner circle of ladies that are always there for me when I need them. There are so many women I know I can’t count on, but the ones that follow…they’re my people, my village, my tribe.
Courtney & Sydney & Jordyn
These girls and I have been a part of each other’s lives since…forever. Our moms have been friends since before I was born. We aren’t cousins by blood, we’re cousins by choice. We’ve have done pretty much everything together growing up. Our families have celebrated birthdays & holidays, gone on vacations, attended graduations & weddings, and so much more…all together.
Courtney and Sydney were my maids of honor the day I got married. And I had the honor of standing with Court the day she got married. And I have no doubts that we’ll all celebrate the same way when Syd gets married. Jordyn worked her magic on my hair that day and I’m so glad she did. It wouldn’t have been the same without her.
I know these girls are always going to be a part of my life. I know they’re going to love my little girl and help support me in raising her. Jordyn already has two girls, so I’ve witnessed what our tribe looks like for our kids. It’s amazing.
I’ve known her since we were in the third grade. Saying I knew her then doesn’t also mean that we were friends. We were in different classes, but she was in the same class as my best friend at the time. So, naturally, we hated each other because sharing friends wasn’t a thing. In time we became closer and soon inseparable. Now, 22 years later we’re still best friends. More than that she’s my sister. We’ve been through a lot together. I had the pleasure of officiating her wedding and having her stand next to me at my own. My time with her has spanned many years, trials, challenges, celebrations, and smiles. I wouldn’t change any of it for the world.
She may live 450 miles away, but I know she’d be here for me the second I needed her. This happening recently when she found out Nell had come early. She came down to make sure I had all the help I needed. Just those two days with her was everything I needed.
Hilary & Naomi
When I started dating Bryan these two did not like me. I get it, they were being protective of their little brother. What they didn’t realize was that I wasn’t like the others. Not long into our relationship things turned around for us. Now, I rarely call them my sisters-in-law. They’re just my sisters.
Hilary and I are very close. We attend church together, we serve together, we’ve lived together, we’ve done a ton of things together. She’s my sounding board and my person to vent to. I rant, she listens, then it’s over. Nothing more, nothing less. We know exactly what the other needs when it comes to things like that. I’ve never been so appreciative to have someone like her.
Naomi and I are also very close. She and I got along a lot quicker than Hil and I did. She has two kids – Evan & Madison. Ev was 4 when I met him and I was around when Madison was born. I’m actually the one that told Naomi she was pregnant. She denied it. Seven years later, I think it’s safe to say I was right. I’ve been blessed with Naomi because I have another woman who is a mom, with kids closer in age to my own, that I can lean on. I know that she’s only ever a phone call or text away and for that, I’m eternally grateful.
Ashley and I have been friends since we were 7 or 8 years old. She’s been a constant in my life for a long time. She has always been such a sweet friend to me. We went to her senior prom together in 2008. I don’t know if she remembers this, but we ended up in the bathroom for like 20 minutes trying to fix my dress beacuse the zipper broke halfway through the night. I ended up wearing a friend’s jacket. Turns out all I had to do was take the dress off to get the zipper back on track. I remember the day she called me and said, “Are you sitting down? I’m pregnant.” She was the first of us to have any kids. And it was so cool to be able to be with her through that. When she got pregnant with her second I was asked to go with her to her first appointment. I am so blessed to have her in my life. I know that she will always be there for me.
When Nell was born she text me, she came to visit me (even though I was sleeping for most of the visit & ended up getting my epidural during that time), and she came to help me clean my house a little after I came home. She is so wonderful and I don’t know if I have the right words to really express that.
Here’s the great thing…there are so many more ladies! It’s honestly hard to name them all. If you’re not specifically listed here, please know that I still have so much love for you. I know there are so many ladies that I can include in my tribe.
This is how I know that I’ll be okay. Because I have so many women I can’t even name them all. I know that being a mom isn’t going to be easy, but I know it won’t kill me because of my tribe.
I love you all so much!